This is a continuation of my earlier post about why people leave their jobs. As you'll read in that note, I had stated that people leave their jobs as the equation between self-worth and net-worth goes south. From the comments that people left on the post, people seem to believe Gallup's finding that "People leave their managers, not companies".
Some people depend too much on their manager...for both self-worth and net worth. That is what I believe to be true. It's of course, true that one's manager is an important player. However, as I argue below, there are other sources of self-worth and net-worth, and most people would do well to find their true source of joy and wealth.
What brings joy... and satisfaction? You might get your jollies from any of the following people -your colleagues, your family, your community, clients your manager. If you have a bad manager you can just as well defocus from the manager and focus on your clients, for example. Treat the manager as an interesting (and irritating) side-show, and nothing more.
What adds to self-worth? Depending on your personality, your sense of self-worth could depend on your work, your social environment, your ideas (the ecosystem inside your head), and your moods. Maybe you like to engage people in stimulating conversation. Maybe you like to work hard and play hard. There are many things in this list, and the manager is just one of these items.
What adds to your net-worth? There are many ways in which your networth can increase- through your salary, your bonuses, your investments, and even "gifts" from other people. If you are too dependent on your company (and therefore your manager) for your networth, then you will be more sensitive to your manager. On the other hand, if your net-worth increases are not too dependent on your manager's largesse, you may as well not worry about how happy your manager is with your work.
The real question is...How much are you dependent on your manager for your sense of self-worth, and your increases in net-worth? If the dependence is high, you will have to figure out a way to reduce it, by adding other sources.
And now...the obligatory 2x2. Nuff said.